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Money coach Rasheda Khatun shares her tips on taking control of your finances, thereby fortifying your future
It’s common for we women to leave our partners to deal with the finances. We’ve seen our parents do it, and our friends, and it’s not like we haven’t got enough to do without taking on the finances as well.
But we must.
Think about this – if you were suddenly left in a position where you were on your own, or without a job, how would you stand financially? Could you afford to take care of yourself? Could you afford to take care of your children?
If the answer is ‘no’ to any of these questions, then it’s time to take responsibility for your finances.
The proposed budget for your wedding can be one of the most problematical areas once you have said ‘yes’ and begun planning your big day. You and your fiancé or family might have different ideas about how much you are willing to spend on this special occasion, and even if you have already set a budget, disagreements might still ensue once you start making bookings and putting down deposits. It’s amazing how quickly that budget disappears, and how tempting it is to ignore this financial limitation!
Thankfully, our BCME expert panel member and wealth and wellness coach, Rasheda Khatun Khan at www.rashedakhatun.com, has some fantastic advice to help you both stick to your budget. If you’re beginning to get frustrated or are experiencing disagreements with your partner about the budget for your wedding day, have a read below and take on board Rasheda’s recommendations.
Flowers, jewellery and surprises are all wonderful ways of expressing how much you love your partner and as a women, I can say they are greatly appreciated. Though it is always in times of distress that we can truly see what it takes to love. How one rises when they fall, overcomes their fears and still does what it takes to take care of their family, no matter what, now that is love! People buy life insurance because they love someone and to protect them financially. The question to ask is how will my family manage financially when I die? It’s a subject nobody really wants to think about, but if someone depends on you financially, it’s one you can’t avoid.
So why is it that we just cannot stick to our money resolutions? Why can we not keep that promise we make to ourselves?
The answer is – we do not make a strong enough commitment. Making an agreement with yourself is just so easy to break because you only have yourself to answer to and we are all good at cutting ourselves a little slack. A good agreement is made up of a worthwhile outcome and a penalty clause if you break it midway. The strong commitment comes from the level of importance of the outcome to your life and what holds you to it is the penalty clause or pain if you let yourself down.
Here are 5 steps to make sure you make a big difference to your pocket in 2016.
Almost every bride-to-be will admit it; in the run up to her wedding day, it can be hard to envisage married life beyond the stunning gown, the beautiful flowers and the excitement of friends and family. Indeed, most couples will become so consumed by the big day itself that the ‘after’ in ‘happily ever after’ is temporarily forgotten in the midst of decision making, planning and general ‘wedmin’. Moreover, sitting down as a couple to talk about your soon to be joint finances can seem unglamorous at best, and at worst, a daunting prospect.